LGBT Center of Raleigh

Mailing Address: 19 West Hargett Street Suite 507 - Raleigh NC 27601 - 919-832-4484

The LGBT Center of Raleigh is physically closed for programs due to the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, but we continue to meet virtually! Those virtual offerings can be found here. If you have questions or are seeking resources, you can call 919-832-4484 seven days a week between the hours of 12pm and 4pm, and your call will be answered by a staff member or volunteer, or you can email info@lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.

We are holding HIV and STI testing at our new location at 19 W Hargett St in downtown Raleigh every Monday from 5:00 pm to 7:45 pm.

Thank you and we look forward to seeing you again soon!

Center Blog

Roller Derby: A Sport for Everyone

by LaKrisha Mauldin
August 27, 2020

Roller Derby

We walked into United Skates of America in Raleigh one Sunday morning, not knowing exactly what to expect. When my son came out as transgender, there did not seem to be a place for him in sports. Since his gender identity did not match the gender marker on his birth certificate, simply registering for a youth sport became impossible. But, roller derby was supposed to be different, more inclusive.

History of Roller Derby

Roller derby began as a thrilling depression era escape. Since its inception, roller derby has been a more inclusive sport than most.

Roller Derby history

Initially, both women and men would compete in alternating periods, combining their scores to determine the winner. The leagues were always co-ed and welcomed openly gay players and all ethnicities. While women and men did not compete against each other, they did play by the same rules. By contrast, most women’s sports today have modified rules from their male counterparts.

Roller derby enjoyed a heyday during the 1970’s when women’s bank track bouts were televised coast to coast. These bouts became more entertainment, focusing on showmanship and drama. After this zenith, roller derby practically stopped for a number of years. In the early 2000’s, women in Austin, Texas revived the sport focusing on athleticism while not forgetting the “Fishnets and Glitter” roller derby flare. Players pick derby names, usually a pun, to compete under, such as ‘Kill-Her-Bee.’ Roller derby was seen as a women’s empowerment movement. Many of the early founders of roller derby identified as members of the LGBT community. You could say roller derby was founded by and for queer women, but they would not have the sport to themselves for long. While roller derby resurfaced as a women’s empowerment movement, a men’s roller derby association quickly followed the all-women’s league. Not long after came a co-ed youth association. Since that time, roller derby has grown to be an international grassroots phenomenon.

“Many of the early founders of roller derby identified as members of the LGBT community.”

Local Roller Derby

“Would roller derby be different than other sports for my child?” I asked myself as we made our way into our first practice. I tried to look calm, but I was worried. My son put on a brave face as the coaches introduced him to the team. Everyone said hello and went about putting on their gear. Then, one of the senior skaters walked up and said “Hi there. What are your pronouns?” I breathed a sigh of relief from the sidelines; I knew we were in the right place. My son found a safe space that day. That was three years ago now and roller derby has since become an important part of our lives.

Raleigh Junior Rollers

Raleigh Junior Rollers is the league where my son found a home. RJR holds ‘inclusiveness’ as an important and key part of roller derby culture, and one of the team’s core values. I have seen my son thrive in this community. It is one of the few public safe spaces for my son and many youth like him. This league provides a home for a large range of queer kids, from trans and gender non-conforming to bisexual and lesbian. Even the RJR coaches identify as members of the LGBT community.

Coach Spotlight

Coach Assassin8Her

Coach Assassin8Her has played roller derby since she was 13 years old. At the time, she had just moved to NC from out of state, was being homeschooled and needed a way to make friends. Her parents looked for a community that would love and nurture young closeted Assassin, and they soon found roller derby. After a memory-packed five years with Raleigh Junior Rollers, Assasin8Her took on her next challenge: coaching young RJR skaters.

She would have to coach skaters ages 8-18, some not much younger than herself. Assassin was up to the challenge though, showing maturity beyond her years. The skaters have looked up to Assassin since she was their team captain, now they look up to her as head coach.

“As it turns out, being in an inclusive space is important for adults as well as children.”

Coach Kitty Crowbar

Not long after Assassin8Her began as the head coach, Coach Kitty Crowbar joined the coaching team for RJR. For Kitty, roller derby was initially a way to get into shape after pregnancy. As it turns out, being in an inclusive space is important for adults as well as children. While playing for Carolina Roller Derby, Kitty came to terms with her own sexuality as a queer woman. Knowing personally how important a safe space can be, Kitty became dedicated to providing that space for younger skaters through RJR. Both Assassin8Her and Kitty Crowbar can be seen playing roller derby locally for Carolina Roller Derby and coaching with Raleigh Junior Rollers.

Grass Roots Phenomenon

Both of these RJR coaches are themselves roller derby players. When I said roller derby is a community grassroots movement, that is exactly what I meant. Just putting on a bout takes over 25 volunteers like referees, NSOs (non-skating official), medics, and many more. All these volunteers make roller derby possible.

Through the years, roller derby has held inclusiveness as a key element to the sport. Every practice, every game, every tournament, my son was included. He had a place. In a world that often rejects or ridicules him, my son found a group of kids and adults who accept him. Not only did his team accept him, there is an entire grassroots sport where he is openly welcomed. Regardless of your gender identity or sexuality, roller derby has a place for you. Regardless of your body type, roller derby has a place for you. If you can’t roller skate, roller derby still has a place for you. Roller derby truly is a sport for everyone.

“Regardless of your gender identity or sexuality, roller derby has a place for you. Regardless of your body type, roller derby has a place for you.”

SkateaThon Flier

Holistic Health and Mental Illness

Holistic Health and Mental Illness

by Tonya J. Williams
July 27, 2020

Living with mental illness is not easy. There is stigma, judgment, and misunderstanding. There is also a struggle to obtain the best evidence-based treatment from a qualified clinician.

Many illnesses are managed by medication and perhaps some form of talk therapy. I have found that a holistic approach is the most effective way to manage my illness.

Holistic health generally consists of five pillars - the mental, physical, emotional, social, and spiritual. By engaging in activity that addresses all five pillars, I have been able to stay in recovery.

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Coping with Depression

Managing Depressionby Tonya J. Williams
July 21, 2020

LGBT Center of Raleigh Statement: Tonya J. Williams returns to the Center Blog to give some insight on ways she has coped with depression, and we hope you find them helpful. As always additional resources on mental health can be found on our website, and we advise you to follow guidelines of your mental health care professional.

Many people who suffer from depression take medication as their treatment regimen at some point. However, there are many other ways to manage depression.

Number one: it is important to stay connected to family and friends. The crucial issue here is being connected to people who make you feel safe and supported. You can attend a movie, concert, play or other outing with them. You can meet them for lunch, coffee, or lemonade. In person meetings are important as they require you to get up and groom yourself.

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Conversion Therapy and Mental Illness

Conversion Therapyby Tonya J. Williams & Shoshanna Carroll
July 17, 2020

“Conversion therapy” also called “reparative therapy” or “sexual orientation change effort” has been used on many queer youth, with estimates showing upwards of 20,000 minors may be subjected to the practice by non-affirming family. According to OutLife based in the United Kingdom, conversion therapy can run the gamut:

Conversion therapy, or so-called “gay-cure therapy” is any form of talk therapy or similar activity that seeks to remove a person’s feelings of same-sex attraction or change their gender identity. Attempts may also be made to force an attraction to the opposite sex, or identification with recorded birth sex.[1]

The word “therapy” can be misleading, as there is no scientific basis for conversion therapy. Practices often vary wildly and are not regulated. In other words: it’s not medically certified, and you don’t know what you’re getting.[2]

This type of therapy results in those who are submitted to it becoming depressed, experiencing more anxiety, becoming suicidal, and being more likely to use drugs. In short, the therapy is not only scientifically discredited, it causes more mental health issues and pain for queer youth and adults. It is an abusive practice and should be banned in all its forms.

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Celebrating Pride as a College Student

Pride Flag

Maintaining community despite the distance

by Dani Puccio (she/they)
July 3, 2020

With typically in-person pride events being postponed, canceled, or moved to a virtual format, LGBTQ people had to be creative in finding ways to celebrate Pride month this year. College students are no exception to these adaptations. After being sent to live off-campus months earlier than expected in the Spring 2020 semester, students had to adjust to new living situations that often caused them to be separated from their friends or potentially back in an uncomfortable housing environment.

Pride month just ended, and it sure wasn’t what most people expected. As a college student, I already feel the need to connect with friends who I haven’t seen since we were all sent home from campus; wanting to feel the collective joy of the LBGTQ community during Pride was no different. It was definitely strange to witness pride celebrations become live-streamed events or virtual meet-ups. I think these modifications, however, represent the will of the community as a whole to adapt to changing circumstances and find new ways to support each other through these new happenings.

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